Dear Maurice,
I am angry; I am disappointed and very frustrated. My life has been turned upside down with just one phone call. I have known my husband for 8 years but we have been married for 5 of those years. Nine years ago I used to work in Mombasa for a foreign couple who ran a holiday resort. I was their resort manager till November 2009 when I moved to Nairobi to further my career in the Hotel industry. The move was also good for my marriage because my husband was based in Nairobi.
Maurice asks,
So what went wrong?
She replies,
In early 2010 the couple I worked for in Mombasa offered me an opportunity to study abroad, they offered to pay for my post grad studies as they knew I had always wanted to elevate my academic profile. Anyway I discussed it with my husband and believe it or not I sacrificed my opportunity for him to gain if the couple would agree to sponsor him instead of me. So I went ahead and requested that they sponsor my husband and they accepted to do it if that was my wish. By August 2010 my husband had left for the United States to pursue his first degree. It is important that you note that my sacrifice was so that my husband could gain a level of education that I already had.
Maurice replies,
Again if I may ask, what went wrong?
She replies,
Over 3 weeks ago my mother-in-law called me and asked me to get in-touch with my husband immediately, on hearing her tone of voice I asked if 
everything was ok and she replied ‘call him’. I called my husband and asked him what was so urgent for his mother to call me, as she had never done that before. He replied ‘baby I messed up’. In a state of worry with him being in a foreign Country I asked him what he had done. He said that he had impregnated a girl. My first response was to ask who she was and he said he met her over a year ago and that he never meant to hurt me. I spoke to my mother and her sentiment was that I was a fool to sacrifice my life for ‘this man’ as she put it. My question to you is how do I handle this situation?
Maurice replies,
Apart from being angry how do you feel about your husband, how does he feel about you, is he going to raise his child and how does he feel about the other woman?
She replies,
I still love and care about him. He swears that he loves me but he also has feelings for the other woman. And yes he wants to raise his unborn child. And to think I begged him for a child before he left and he refused to conceive with me at the time. I do not want to start a fresh; I have invested too much into this marriage. I want him back home even if he comes with his mistress and child I still want to make it work. Do you think that set up will work?
Maurice replies,
As long as you have the will and drive to make it work, I don’t see why not. However the transition won’t be smooth, adapting to sharing your man won’t be a walk in the park and there’s no telling how two women in one home will react to one another. Personally I foresee a recipe for major domestic conflicts; that said it is your prerogative to embark on this unorthodox path in your marriage.
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Woman wake up and smell the coffee
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It is quite unfortunate that you are going through such an ordeal but I think you should carefully think this whole situation through.
First and foremost, you sacrificed an opportunity to further your education and instead let him take your place.
As if that is not enough, he was not keen on the idea of a baby before he left for the US and now he has another woman pregnant!!!
If your husband truly loves you and respects you, he should have thought about putting his hand into another cookie jar! And then after messing up, he does not have the balls to call you but rather call his mother!
It is time you use your head and not your heart. We as women tend to stay in such disrespectful relationships/marriages for the sake of children. If you do not have any with him, I do not see what is keeping you in this relationship!
Typical. Why did you give up something that came to you and reject it? Why did you feel he was more worthy than you? Why not jump at good things that come your way instead of giving them away to an ass? His situation has not to do with “babies.” He did not fool around with baby thoughts, only “what pleased him” thoughts. The baby is merely an unfortunate outcome of those selfish thoughts. Obviously – he does not love nor respect you. Did he, he’d not be humping other women. Do we not all need someone who will put us first? In other words, who would never think of taking your place in an opportunity which you had earned? You are, at the very most, his #3 ambition. Is that enough for you? Is should not be.
She’s too nice and being the asshole he is, he knows it and is taking her by the hair. Next he’ll divorce her and stay with the woman in the US for papers. It’s not like he didn’t know where babies come from. Should have home schooled him but some guys are deceitful like that…. Pay me Maurice. Pay me!