mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I met my husband 8 years ago. We dated for 2 years and have been married for 6. I’m 28 years old and he is 44 years. I was a virgin when I met him. Freshly graduated from campus. I enjoyed having sex with him. We would meet in his apartment and go at it like rabbits. I was horny for him most of the time. The thrill of me partaking in the forbidden kept me going for more.  I later joined Grad school and he would come to my apartment on campus, and the thrill of never getting caught was awesome. We used to also do it at a friend’s house over the weekend when he would come to visit. We finally got married and I had most of my fantasies of sex fulfilled. Lazy Sunday afternoon sex, horny sex on a mattress in the garden, sex in a tent outside in the evenings, in all this I was fulfilled even though I never quite understood the orgasm part.

Maurice replies,

From your description you have had a healthy sex life with your husband, so where is the problem?

She replies,

He seemed to enjoy himself more than I did and I kept pushing for me to feel the same way he felt. I blamed it on the contraceptive I was using at that time. I seemed to get very inhibited all of a sudden. Salvation came when I was expecting my first baby. I wanted sex all the time. I still remember the sweet sensation of my first orgasm when I was heavy with child. I loved the breakthrough. I was broken hearted to discover later on that he was watching porn while I was pregnant. I linked it with my being undesirable. However, how could I be so horny, having orgasms and not be desirable? I gave birth and in two weeks I was back at it. I couldn’t seem to get enough. We were expecting our second baby and I discovered that he was still watching porn. I was probably 3 times more horny than with the first baby. He was so busy at work and I started watching porn too to get a release. After delivering the second baby, I felt my body changed. I had added weight, had XD boobs and a seductive sexy ass. I loved my body since I had been on the thin end most of my life. I started spending more time loving my body and touching it. I felt sexy as a woman.

Maurice asks,

How was your sex life at this stage of your life?

Our sex life was still quite intimate. He evolved into the sweet and sensitive lover who spent more time pleasing me than himself. I felt close to him sexually. At the brink of this sexual intimacy, I started getting advances from other men. I blame it on the cleavage. Men would come to me and ask for sex. It didn’t matter that I was married. This was a huge boost to my ego as twisted as it sounds. I was happy to be sexy. I was excited that I could turn men on. This powerful feeling was intoxicating.

I started having this urge to experience sex with another man. I wondered how it would feel to be with another man. Inevitably, I met a man who wanted me. I started an affair, the sex was overly thrilling. In total, I had affairs with 6 men in a span of almost two years. I just seemed not to get satisfied. I want to stop seeing other men. I want this thirst for them to end before I destroy my marriage?

Maurice replies,

I suspect that your first taste of indiscretion gave you a feeling that you had never experienced with your husband, that feeling was engraved in your limbic system and since then you have allowed your urges to take control hence why you have submitted to each desire you seek. At this point only you can control your actions; ask yourself, is what you are getting from your conquests worth destroying your marriage? Are you in-love with your husband or have you reached that point where you have realized love was never the foundation you built your relationship on. Also consider that your sexual compatibility is finally proving that as you matured your libido increased but your husband’s stayed stagnant or decreased. Your predicament is all about your sexual cravings which in most cases override any other logic stemming on morality. Science has proven that what the sexual mind wants the sexual mind usually gets in most cases, why? because there is no known switch off button especially if you do not fear the consequences.