mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice, 

With a lot pain I inform you that my young marriage has been put underside down by certain revelations. I am 28 years old with a 2 year old baby girl. I have been married for almost 3 years. Our third anniversary comes up in December but I predict it will be by far the saddest period of my life. My husband who is 2 years my junior has been keeping secrets from me and without any notice his secrets are now affecting the stability of our family.

Maurice asks,

What have you found out about your husband?

She replies,

He has been living a double life.

Maurice replies,

Please expound on his double life?

She replies,

Two weeks ago I was called by what seemed as a random woman, she asked if we could meet and discuss a few issues. I asked what issues? She replied, she would reveal all if I agreed to meet her. I was curious to find out what she had to say so I agreed to our meeting. We met a public place, at a cafeteria of my choice and from there my World collapsed.

Maurice asks,

What did she reveal?

She replies,

She told me that she had been dating my husband for the last 6 years. Before saying it to my face she made it very clear that she was approaching me in good faith and that she had no ill feelings towards me. That startled me for a second because I had no idea what was to befall me. I don’t know how I managed to stay composed but I then followed up by asking her to start from the beginning so that I could have a clearer picture of this alleged relationship. Bear in mind that I have known my husband for 4 years.

Maurice asks,

What was the purpose of the meeting?

She replies,

After all these years she felt that I deserved to know that she existed and to complicate matters further she was my husband’s unofficial boss. She revealed that my husband, though he had a job, he was not formally employed by her. She gave him a role as her PA months after she met him. At the time he was jobless and considering their fling she felt obliged to empower him with a job. She also wanted me to know that she gave him the green light to date me and eventually marry me because she was not inclined to ever get married but she did say she had one child with my husband. All this information was too much to handle, since the meeting I have been very distant at home and my husband is clueless on why. What do I do, I hate my husband right now but I can’t allow my child to grow up without her father. How do I trust him ever again, do we even have a marriage worth saving?

Maurice asks,

After knowing what you know, do you still love your husband?

She replies,

I wish I didn’t but I am deeply in-love with him. He is the perfect man when he is with me but know that I know there’s another woman discussing the issue with him will just stir up arguments. I am afraid this might be the beginning of the end for us. Can I pretend not to know and for how long. Maurice I am confused, what do I do?

Maurice replies,

What you are trying to avoid is inevitable, you need to confront this issue with your husband. If you hope to have him around because you still love him plus he is your baby’s father you need to hear his side of the story. She may have approached you to unsettle your home because your husband finally decided which woman he wants in his life, your husband may have cut ties with her long ago hence why you never knew about her, however it is all speculation until you have that heart to heart with your husband. Bite the bullet and discuss the matter it’s the only way you will move forward.