Dear Maurice,
I have been married for 9 years 4 months. My husband is 6 years my junior. I am 41. When I think about it I was warned about dating him leave alone marring him. 
But I guess sometimes you can’t ignore your feelings for someone. I have been a loyal dedicated wife for all these years. We both work but I tend to him as if he was my child. I guess you can say I fell for his charm and treated him like a King within our home. I work a full day and yet I still I am able to come home and cook for my family. We have 2 kids. However, I have recently learned that we have a third child but not from me.
Maurice asks,
Are you implying that your husband has a child outside your marriage?
She replies,
He not only has a child but he has a child with my own blood sister, the one I follow.
Maurice asks,
How do you know this?
I was visiting my sister last month and fell upon documentation that confirmed paternity of one of her children. Two weeks ago I asked her as politely as I could and she did not deny. She broke down and confessed that they had a one night stand while my husband and I were still dating and a child came of it. She said she hid the truth from me because she was protecting me and could see how much in-love I was with my husband. For her it was just a one off and they mutually agreed to hide the truth from me and continue with life as usual. I feel so betrayed by my sister and husband.
Maurice asks,
What has your husband said about it?
She replies,
I have not told him that I know. My sister pleaded with me not to say a thing, she apologized and said she already lives with regret and she can’t handle breaking up my family. She also fears the repercussions of our parents and extended family knowing. Despite her actions I am very close to my sister but I am wondering for how long can I pretend to my husband. As it is I have given him numerous excuses to why I do not want to be intimate with him at the moment.
Maurice asks,
So you never suspected anything between them before?
She replies,
No, I did not. For one, I met my husband through my sister, it was her hook up that got us courting so suspecting anything between them was not an option. If she wanted him she would have had first choice in the matter. I am not defending their actions but when I recall the period they had their fling, my husband and I were going through a few storms but I thought nothing of an affair behind my back. I can forgive my sister but what about my husband?
Maurice asks,
Did you fall for your husband because of his toy boy looks and character back then?
She replies,
I was dreading you asking but yes I did.
Maurice replies,
Despite what you know, do you still love your husband and do you feel what you have is worth saving?
She replies,
Are you asking if I can equally forgive my husband and continue with life and go to my grave with this knowledge, this secret? I don’t know the answer to that but I know I love my husband. But can I trust that he has never cheated on me or will never cheat on me? Maybe I can forgive but I can’t forget.
Maurice replies,
If you can forgive the past then I urge you to continue with your marriage. If you choose to tell your husband that you know what he did with your sister then that will open a can of worms that may lead to a rift between you or at worst a separation because who is to know how your husband will react. It’s my recommendation that you cherish what you have and live life to the full without stirring up the harmony you maintain today.
I am not 100% sure of your future but I believe that you still love your husband very much hence why we are having this dialogue, otherwise you would have made the conscious decision to leave him. It’s not going to be a bed of roses for a while but if you believe you have a marriage worth saving then set full throttle ahead and don’t look back.
mauricetherapy 
This is the worst advice you have ever given anyone Maurice! Seriously sober up! The truth has a way of coming out no matter how you try to hide it, especially if it something with long-term consequences like a child! If something affects the child in the future, the sister will call on the father to help the child! even the Bible says the truth will set you free. She would rather deal with the hurt and confront sooner, as in now, rather than later.
I support u Maurice really dear if u love your husband don’t allow such a thing separete youyour sister is your sister and her children are yours its better that it was your sister rather than an outsider another thing your sister has told you dont blow out the cat it means she cares about your marriage.think before you act.
maurice i also support you only on the basis that you have outlined to her that she fell for her husband for his looks and youthfulness, you have also outlined that she would have left him but she instead chose to seek your advise
my husband had an affair and yet i still held onto him till i eventually had enough, its a personal choice you make as a woman. if your husband betrays your trust then you can leave or stay. the bigger picture in this case is that she is inlove with her toy boy and she is not willing to let him go
maurice i am slowly understanding how you profile individual situations
good work