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Dear Maurice,

I am a 27 year old woman with 3 kids, my youngest is now just over one year old. I have been married to a very loving dedicated man for 6 years now. In the last year our sex life has changed and is declining fast. I really need your help to find out what is going on with me?

Maurice asks,

So you have isolated the issue to be stemming from you and if so how do you feel about yourself as a woman?

She replies,

I know for a fact that I have gained weight to be precise I have gain 6 kilos. I hate it, I hate how I look and I hate letting myself go to this extent. I can’t even undress next to my husband I have to hide in the bathroom and put on a robe before we sleep. Before I could easily change in-front of him and I felt sexy, that is now no longer the case.

Maurice asks,

What do you see when you look into the mirror?

She replies,

Maurice I see an ugly woman, I see an over weight woman. I am even afraid to look at myself because every day I feel like I am adding more and more weigh.

Maurice asks,

What does your husband see if at all he shares with you?

She replies,

My husband is sweet and very attentive. He keeps trying to remind me that I am sexy and he does his best to make me feel good about myself but at the back of my mind I’m wondering if he is doing it just to please me, I know it’s wrong to question him as my husband but I can’t help it.

Maurice replies,

So you started to feel less sexy when your third child was born. What was so significant about the third compared to the other times you gave birth?

She replies,

I don’t know but something I can’t explain just click in my head and I begun to doubt how I look. My girl friends are no help they keep telling me that I have added weigh and it hurts but I don’t show it. To me they have a point; they are trim and proper where as I am over weigh.

Maurice replies,

My dear let me tell you this for a fact. It’s all in your mind and no amount of acknowledgement from your husband will fix your mental out look, only you can look within yourself and start to tell yourself that yes you may have added weight but you are still sexy and secondly your husband the man you married finds you sexy that should count for something.

I know it’s easier said than done but you must be strong willed to convince and remind yourself that you are sexy.

Oh, never ever listen to your girlfriends, especially regarding your body, other women have never been known to have anything positive to contribute other than tell you the obvious which is not encouraging. If hitting the gym has crossed your mind, that’s more a long term solution which in most cases should become a lifestyle rather than a one of two months affair. First things first, feel good about yourself ‘as you are’.

Take note, men love a confident woman, so please do not show your husband that you have a complex about your body. He will attempt to help you feel good about yourself but over time if you persist to continue thinking you are not sexy yet he says you are he will eventually lose the strength to affirm your beauty. A confident woman regardless of her body size is like a beacon oozing sexiness, like honey oozed out of a comb ‘the thought itself makes a man’s mouth go dry’, if you get my drift.

It’s time you went out there and pampered yourself with a few feel good treats, buy some kinky lingerie and wear it proudly and show it off to your husband and keep telling yourself you are a mother of 3 and that you are sexy. Motherhood does not decline your look unless you self inflict or believe that you are not sexy. Like I said, it’s all in the mind. Change your mind set within the next few months and experience a new you that your husband will automatically notice and shower you will words of encouragement, the actions will accompany the words.