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 Dear Maurice,

I am writing to you hoping that you can assist me in my marriage. I have only been married for 2 years. It was our second year in November 2011. I am 25 and saved, my husband is 27. I thought my husband was also a man of God but he has changed over the 2 years.

Maurice asks,

How has he changed, is he committing adultery, is he going out or indulging in things against your wishes, please expound on the change of character?

She replies,

He is asking for things that go against what we both believed in, we met 3 years ago. You see, we met in Church and were even part of the choir. We took a liking for each other after a few coffee dates and embarked on a path to marriage. My only worry at the time was that my husband was not a virgin which was a major trial for me. I wanted to marry someone pure of sin out of wedlock. But as they say love is blind and I had no choice but to over look his past life. My husband has not been with anyone to my knowledge and I don’t believe he would do things behind my back. We made a vow to tell each other everything no matter how bad it was and I have faith that we will both stick to that promise.

Maurice comments,

But you still haven’t told me what has gone wrong in your marriage?

She replies,

I know I am delaying the inevitable it’s just I am not used to broadcasting my affairs to strangers.

Maurice says,

Well, you approached me for help so it only makes sense that you share and let’s see the way forward.

She replies,

Ok, how do I say this, my husband has been asking for me to perform in the bedroom in ways that go against my faith. I have consulted with a few of my friends and they seem to think that I am lucky to have a man who wants to only be with me however I am wondering why now, where did he get the sudden urge to want to experiment? He has bought the book they call Kamasutra and he made me go through, he told me that he loves me very much and enjoys our current sexual life however we must spice our bedroom affairs to keep things alive. What has changed in my home, I am puzzled by these requests. The book was shocking enough. I really don’t know how to react?

Maurice says,

I need to know a few things before I give you my honest opinion. How often do you partake in your bedroom affairs on average per week or per month? And if it came between your faith and pleasing your husband which one would you choose?

She replies,

Maurice my faith is a very important part of my life, it is the only way I know, it is how I was brought up, I would hate to have to make a choice. About our bedroom affairs we perform them at least once or twice every 2 weeks. We never had sex outside wedlock so our first year was not as pressuring as the last 2 years.

Maurice asks,

Do you enjoy those bedroom affairs? I know these are private matters but for me to help it is paramount that you tell me, and please don’t sugar coat the answer.

She replies,

Yes I do. But afterwards I feel dirty and I feel as if I have sinned by enjoying too much. If I am honest we don’t have it regularly because of my aftermath feelings.

Maurice says,

This is your husband my dear. You are not committing any sin that I know of, by enjoying what you share with your husband. Continue with you faith and also remind him of the foundation that formed your union but do not be afraid to explore together, he is yours. You are doing nothing wrong. Personally I believe you are both very lucky to have each other. You clearly care and love each other if you are willing to be open to each other. You have a husband who is, I assume, exclusively attracted to you and by buying that book he has shown signs of being a man who wants to experience his sexuality with his wife only and not outside his home. Trust me on this, not that many men would have bought the book and taken it to their wife. You have a man who is not afraid to express himself, that’s a bonus on your part. Lastly, is your husband home when you need him to be home?

She replies,

Most of the time, he does not disappoint. He only disappoints when he forgets to tell me he will be late otherwise he is a good man and a loving husband.

Maurice replies,

There you go, you have an almost perfect home your husband just needs to learn to communicate to your liking, you can train him over the years that should be a piece of cake. Your only hurdle is your worry of going against your faith. Again, you are not doing anything wrong. Enjoy your marriage and may it be a very long and happy one.