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Dear Maurice,

I am 24 and very much in-love with a man who does not feel the same.  I have dated him for the last 5 years. We met at my pal’s birthday party and fell deeply in-love with each other. For 3 years he gave me nothing but sweet pleasure whenever we were together. He wined and dined me every week and at that time I felt so special, I felt like a woman, his woman.

 Little did I know that I was to receive a call from a woman claiming to be his wife of 9 years and she asked to meet me for a friendly chat. We met last month and I told her I was not aware he was married. She then proceeded to tell me that I was her third case in a span of 2 years and she too was getting tired of her husband’s cheating antics. Maurice I was heart broken at that point but I held it together. Here was this handsome loving man that I fell in-love with and he had taken me for a ride for all those years, telling me how much he loved me. Apart from cheating on his wife to hear from her that he had other women was very hurtful. I thought I meant the World to him.

Maurice replies,

My dear, I hear you loud and clear but I must remind you that he is not your man, he belongs to another despite what he may have told you or promised you. How old is this Casanova?

She replies,

He is 39 with 2 kids according to the wife.

Maurice replies,

I am amused by that phrase ‘according to the wife’, I don’t think the wife is hallucinating or imagining the kids, I’m sure they have 2 kids if that’s what she told you. I know you want him to yourself but that is not an option and even if he were to leave his wife, which is extremely rare, would you trust in a man who clearly appears to be having his cake and eating it too with multiple women. And no, he will not change anytime soon not unless he receives a total brain replacement, again not an option you have. My dear as painful as this scenario is for you, you need to move on with your life and if it’s meant to be love will come your way in form of a man who can at least concentrate all his energies on you.

She replies,

That is harsh Maurice.

Maurice replies,

It’s a clear picture of your predicament and it’s also the bare truth. You can’t escape from the truth and create your own alternate Universe of love. For your own peace of mind and emotional well being you need to forget this man. And the reason why the pampering declined is because he was caught by his wife. The little time he gives you is all he can offer. That is not a relationship.

She replies,

But there’s another issue.

Maurice asks,

Which is?

She replies,

I am 2 months pregnant with his child. The wife does not know but I want to tell her so she can advise me on my next move.

Maurice says,

Are you out of your mind, you want advise from the woman who’s husband got you pregnant. Do you have a death wish. I’m sure she may have been calm and collected when you first met her but this is an entirely new ball game, I don’t think she will welcome you with open arms this time round. If anyone has to tell her it should come from her husband.

She replies,

He doesn’t want more kids. He has already hinted that he will help me abort. He has offered to pay me a considerable amount for my silence and he wants it done through his advocate.

Maurice asks,

What was your reply to his offer?

She replies,

I told him I will think about it, I am confused Maurice. What should I do?

Maurice replies,

There’s no amount of cash that equates to your child. Secondly, its your choice however abortion is not a solution I would recommend. But like I said it’s your choice to make. Whatever your decision is, make sure you can live with it for the rest of your life and please unless she makes contact with you, do not approach the wife. Her knowing about your pregnancy is not my concern its more about your welfare and safety. If you do meet her make sure you have a third party with you.