mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I just want your honest opinion on a scenario that is currently part of my life. I am 28 years old. I don’t have a girlfriend and to be frank, one would just slow my roll. Anyway, in September 2010 I traveled to the Norway where I stayed with an American family, yah I know odd! They moved there over a decade ago. I was training at some institute furthering my studies as you do. I was there for a good 9 months, my course was only for 6 months but I decided to stay longer and the reason was because I was having an affair with the lady of the house. Dude she is sizzling hot at 44, she can easily give much younger girls a run for their money. You need to see her to know exactly what I’m talking about. Her husband and 2 kids were clueless at first until one of her boys figured it out and told his Dad of his suspicions.

Maurice asks,

Did he punch your lights out?

He replies,

No, but I could see it in his eyes, given the chance he would have minced me into cat food. He just asked me what was going on between me and his wife and I said ‘nothing’, it’s not like I was going to admit it considering I was living under his roof.

We had our mano to mano chat and things went back to normal.

Maurice asks,

When did you start hitting on another man’s woman?

He replies,

Well, the flirting started within 2 days of my arrival. It was just harmless  sharing of jokes, a bit of fun that escalated into a fling. The husband is a sales guy so he would travel for days at a time, giving me ample time to have a taste. No word of a lie but that was the best sexual experience I had ever had. In short, she taught me things I didn’t even know I could do.

Maurice says,

A bit off topic, did you finish your course and what do you do for a living?

He replies,

I run my own business online, its now my fourth year selling commodities online and yes I did finish the course which was related to advancing my business in Kenya because I already sell to the World.

Maurice asks,

So you went over to a foreign Country and could not resist your keepers wife. Who you have an affair with is your business but ‘dude’ seriously, you were in Norway. All those Scandinavian women and you opted to bang someone’s woman. I’m sure there are guys reading this who are on the same page. Were there no girls at this institution?

He replies,

I did not plan to meet such a fine woman and yes I couldn’t not resist her. She was all over me too, so I guess it was a case of two consenting adults acting on their call of nature. Now, about the institute. I had a thing with 2 girls over the period I was there and one is currently pregnant. Lucky for me she was of legal age and her parents have been supportive but also disappointed if you know what I mean. The last thing they expected was their daughter to get pregnant. I am going to take care of the baby and I have already set finances in motion to make sure the mother to my Scandinavian daughter is comfortable. It actually feels good to say that and I’m glad I have been blessed over the years in my business so I can afford the child care.

Maurice replies,

I see you’ve been both busy and an overly naughty boy. So I’m guessing you’re done with your older woman fling?

He replies,

You see that’s just it, she is coming to Kenya to see me in a few weeks time. She has taken time off to be with me. And before you ask, I’m not going to ask her to stay over and leave her husband.

Maurice comments,

You need to be careful with your wording for a minute there it sounded like you felt for the husband of which you don’t.

He replies,

What are you implying?

Maurice replies,

OK, lets not beat around the bush. This is my take on the whole saga. You have certainly not being playing with women’s minds for a short while. You are confident and you are very strategic in what you do, however, I also feel that you have played the field for so long that the fun is wearing thin. You are running away from the one thing you want most ‘companionship’. I know why, its easier to play the player from one woman to the next than to indulge in the unknown World of ‘Love’ as they call it. Underneath that player in you is a man who wants to dedicate himself to one woman but you fear the probabilities the future will throw at you.

Let me break it down, I never asked you about having a girlfriend but you went ahead and dismissed the notion of having a relationship, are getting my drift. You have money. You could have stayed at the institute’s facility but you chose to seek accommodation with a family as if you were on some exchange program! You did that so that you could limit the probability of ‘scoring’ with women. Living with a family gave you better odds of mingling with the locals plus I can bet you saw a photo of the family before you decided which one to live with. Once they accepted your request, half your job was done. Oh in-case you are wondering how I know for sure the institute had accommodation facilities, well unless you went to some backyard college of which you didn’t, Universally institutions have accommodation options. Yes, I’m also well traveled and well versed in many topics.

Despite the fact that you are having an affair with a married woman you know you feel for her but you are so afraid to walk into the darkness not knowing whats on the other side. Get over it, that’s life, and trust me, though I know you have an idea of this but you do know she is not traveling all this way just to fuck you and experience the sites and sounds of Kenya, she could have done that watching Nat Geo Wild. You hear me my good man. Tell me I’m wrong.

He replies,

All I can say is that you have a point or two but I don’t believe I’m afraid it’s just women who I tend to fall for never live up to my expectations.

Maurice replies,

And there you have it, a confession of some form of fear. Mate I wish we lived in an ideal World but we don’t. We all have to take that leap and with luck you find compatibility in a partner. Now that will sustain a relationship, do you believe you are compatible with you soon to be guest? Have you ever had compatibility but for some reason it just never materialised?

He replies,

Again, I’m not too sure about compatibility long term but I’m sure of our current attraction for each other, the flame still burns bright. I would rather not discuss my past if you don’t mind.

Maurice asks,

I am curious, what made the girls parents trust in you or should I say accept you, and was there no fire works with the girls at the institute?

He replies,

When she told me she was pregnant I was willing to take her in and have her join me in Kenya or I relocate but she said that she was already dating a guy over there and that I was just a distractions, a fling that was good while it lasted. She was point blank, she said she could not see a future with me because she wasn’t in-love with me and that she would never ask anyone to relocate from their home to be with her just because she got pregnant. So really I was following her instructions. For me our time together was great but I too was only there for the fun with both girls. But when it comes to ‘you know who’, she has just shown me unconditional attention and a new perspective in life, I really don’t know how to describe it. I guess when she gets here the future will unfold and what comes will come.

Maurice replies,

Careful, you are treading in new social dynamics and you may find the one or end up hurt. My final words to you are, have your fun, concentrate on your business of which I’m sure is your passion and take each day as it comes. When she gets here, you both need to be very clear where you are going or not so that the airport goodbye can be one of happiness, meaning you have decided to stay together or one of ‘cheers’ for the holiday its been fun but its time for me to go back home. No one is promised tomorrow, live each day as if it were your last and refrain from people’s wives you already have one coming over.