mauricetherapy

Talking on the phone is an important way to keep connected to people, especially as people are so mobile phone addicted these days, I’ve been brain storming trying to figure out why I don’t love talking on the phone like I used to when I was much younger, and I think I have it figured out.

When there was an actual phone, with a cord to the wall, it felt very grounding. I could sit on my bed, or on my couch, and give my complete focus to the conversation in an environment I had intentionally created for the purpose.

There was a place and time and purpose to the connection and when I was having it I felt really present and happy.

Today, we have conversations while we are putting on our make-up, dressing, eating, driving, while out of town trying to share quality time, even some of us carry the phone to the shower and stop the water once we hear the ring tone. The phone might as well be listed in biology as part of our vital organs! The conversations we have steer more around “where are you, where are you going, what time will you be home or wherever”. During the call I find myself distracted and may say things I don’t necessarily intend to say or agree to things possibly I should not be agreeing to while on the mobile phone.

The phone might also get cut off, poor reception, calls comes in, texts arrive, or someone interrupts me. Granted, I understand that it allows us to talk more, talk across great distances and in remote places, and talk less expensively.  If we get separated from our friends while hiking across some mountain we don’t have to look for a pay phone or a smoke sign to locate each other so yes I know there are many benefits to mobile technology but does the phone have to be part of our daily life to exist!.

It just seems we are maybe replacing some of the quality for quantity, intimacy of information for easy connection.  Those long conversations cuddled up on the couch, with a cord keeping me stuck to the ground so I can’t just quickly turn the oven off and bring in the groceries.  A candle lit setting, your pet lying at your feet, and the feeling of a conversation that is intentional and sincere, with the mind in the now.

The revelation for me is that this is what I am missing with the invention of the mobile phone. That I need my space, I need a warm, comfortable place where I shut everything off and truly connect. So today why don’t we all set up our space and test out the theory, and see if our passion to connect doesn’t grow stronger.

The mobile phone is great when you want to send a quick reminder of how much you miss her or him. It’s convenient and fast. But it lacks the romance and true connection that a one on one conversation would ignite. Yes we all text each other “I Love You” and really whether via text or face to face what counts is if you really mean it. That said, I personally think that hearing the voice face to face, looking into each other’s eyes adds a sense of tangible value to those words or any other positive words shared between couples, hence why a man in his right mind would not officially propose via his mobile phone.