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Dear Maurice,

 I have 5 kids and have been married for the last 16 years.  I have seen it all, been there, gone through the thick and thin with my husband and trust me he has tested my sanity many a times. Last week I got home at around 7pm, he was already home and I found him in our bedroom doing what I can only describe as abnormal. Out of all the experience this one has topped it.

Maurice my husband who I hold in such high regard was dressed in women’s attire, my clothes. At first I thought I was hallucinating but unfortunately it was real, before my own eyes my man was in a dress and wearing lip stick. I remember closing the door behind me as I said as calmly as possible “the kids will be home in a few and you have some explaining to do”. What if my kids saw their Dad it would confuse them, I don’t even want to think about it.

Maurice asks,

I knew there were cross dressers in Kenya but I didn’t realize I would be receiving the news in this unfortunate context. So what did your husband say about the cross dressing?

She replies,

Are you telling me there is an epidemic of men dressing like women and my husband has been infected? Maurice, what was I going to ask him, he just came downstairs looking like his normal self and said that “it was not the time for him to explain but he will”. Since then I have moved to the spare room. I sleep there once the kids are asleep then by 6am I’m back in our bedroom. I can’t stand to lay next to him the whole night, I just can’t, it gives me the shivers just thinking about it. Is my man gay after all these years? Please tell me something, I need to hear your opinion.

Maurice comments,

You have had 5 kids over a period of 16 years, how old is the youngest?

She replies,

My last born is 4 years old.

Maurice says,

Great news, I can tell you this for sure, your husband is not gay or seeking to be in the future. In my opinion he is a transvestic fetishist, a heterosexual man who has probably hidden his fetish from you for many many years. It’s unlikely he developed these dressing desires a few years ago. It is not an infection and whatever you do let him explain it to you and be supportive which is different from encouraging. Hear him out. Right now he is confused not knowing if his marriage is over, many thoughts and scenarios are running in his head right now. I know he let you down by not sharing, you may not approve of his behaviour but if you want results don’t make it hard for him to open up. He needs to feel he is not in trouble, you just need to be on the same page as him. Once he opens up and spills the beans then you can rationally question him further.  I need to ask, has your husband ever shown signs of not feeling manly? Has he felt inadequate in any way especially in the bedroom?

She replies,

Unless I have become ignorant of my husband I can confidently say he has been the ‘man’ of the house from the beginning. Our sex life is healthy so this incident has really thrown me off the spinner.

Maurice replies,

There you go; you have confirmed what I was pretty certain about. Let me know how thing progress but you will find that your husband only loves to dress as a woman to satisfy his own fantasy that is in his head and it doesn’t go further than that. For instance, he does not have a gender disorder which affects singles even married men to point where they regret their gender bodily attributes and will go to great lengths to change their appearance. Again, this is just a fetish zone with your husband. I urge you to be patient with him; he never thought he would get caught by you so be gentle on the man. Please do keep me posted.