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 Dear Maurice,

I don’t know where to start, things have just turned on me. Last night was supposed to be a fun time for me and my wife but she decided to change our plans by standing me up on Valentines day of all days. I had really psyched for it but she let me down.

Maurice asks,

What do you mean?

He replies,

Well, my wife of 9 years and I have been living a life that most people would not understand or accept. We have had a female partner for the last 2 years. It was something we both talked about as one of our fantasies while we were dating and eventually we found a compatible bi-sexual woman whom we would see at least twice a month.

Maurice asks,

So what did not go to plan yesterday?

He replies,

As you have guess we were to celebrate Valentines as a threesome but around 9pm my wife send me a text and switched off her phone. She told me to enjoy myself with a few friends who were going to join us by 11pm. I had already booked a surprise Hotel room for the 3 of us and all that went to waste as I ended up at the Hotel alone and disappointed after spending some time with our mutual friends.

Maurice asks,

Do your friends know of your sex life preference?

He replies,

Yes they do. They did ask why my wife was and I had no choice but to make up a story that we had an argument earlier in the day and she decided to go home.

Maurice replies,

So I’m guessing your wife made the night a two-some without consulting with you first, hence ruining your planned night?

He replies,

Yes she did, of late she has been closer to our sex partner and I confronted her about it when I noticed she would pay more attention to her than usual. She did not deny the fact but she affirmed that our relationship was still intact and she thanked me for being an understanding husband. She told me I have nothing to worry about. I want your view on the matter, I knew what I was getting into so I can’t blame her for having feelings for another.

Maurice replies,

Have you seen your wife since last night?

He replies,

Yes I have. I saw here at her work place over lunch time, we went for lunch and she explained what had happen. She wanted space from me to satisfy her fantasy without me for once. She apologised for switching off her phone but she said she didn’t know how to tell me that she had made other plans with the other woman. I am a very liberal person but I feel that she broke our promise to each other that we will be open regardless of the matter in hand. What can we do to avoid such an incident.

Maurice replies,

Has your wife spent a night with the other woman without you before?

He replies,

Yes she has numerous times over the last 2 years.

Maurice asks,

So your only issue with her is that she did not tell you of her change of plans and do you by any chance see other women apart from your third party sex partner?

He replies,

No I don’t sleep around with other women our sex life only involves the woman in question. We are both liberal and had a system that worked but now I’m not too sure if my wife wants to be with me.

Maurice replies,

The problem with fetishes is that despite being a very open couple some desires are difficult to share without hurting someone’s feelings. I don’t want to speculate but I believe your wife just wanted to explore her fetish without you being there. Unfortunately she chose the wrong day to explore, plus she should have just told you earlier on so that you can discuss it.

He replies,

I guess you are right. I am not jealous, I just needed for my wife to tell me the truth, I would have accepted her request to fulfill her desire after all she would be coming back home to me. I know many will judge us but despite this hiccup our relationship works and will continue to work because we have been 95% honest to each other about our sexuality and we deal with each day as it comes. Thank you for your opinion I guess I needed to share.

Maurice replies,

You are welcome. Let me know how things go into the weekend.