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Dear Maurice,

I like reading your articles keep it up. I have a problem if I can call it that. I recently experienced my first kiss with a girl and I really liked it. It got me worried thinking I was a lesbo or turning into one but at the same time I can’t get it off my mind, she really knew how to kiss me and when she held my breast the thrill felt so good. We exchanged numbers and now she wants to meet me for coffee, I’m so tempted and can’t get her off my mind.

I am 26, I have a husband. We have been married for just over a year, no kids, we dated for 3 years prior to our marriage. Until now I was as faithful as can be and it all happened so fast I was clubbing with my pals and met this girl who cornered me and we kissed. I had a few drinks but I won’t blame the drink because I knew what I was doing. Was this a fantasy that I was not consciously aware of or will it pass and I’ll forget the whole thing? I am so confused, should I tell my husband and if I do I know we will be done.

Maurice’s reply:

My dear thanks for putting me on the spot because it’s not really my place to tell you what the right thing is, because you already know. I do advocate for people to explore their fantasies and sexuality but preferably with their partners in the picture but that is not always possible as in your case.

I hear you and boy do I feel your predicament but you need to reflect back to what led you to stray, is everything at home fine, could your actions have been triggered by an event or events that have taken their toll in your marriage? It’s only been a year in your marriage so are you in-love with your husband? These are the questions you need to ask yourself sincerely placing your happiness first. The other side of the coin is easier to interpret and it could be a moment of lust that was well planned by the women you kissed. Let me in brief explain that the reason why she made you feel the way you did, it’s a mixture of two things. Women who know the way around a woman’s body out do most men ‘any day’ and the taste of the forbidden fruit comes into play on a psychological level as well.

If in the next one week you still feel like meeting this woman then you need to contact me and we can take it from there. Whatever you do within the next 7 days don’t meet her otherwise she might take you to ‘places sexually’ that I won’t be able to reverse and don’t tell your husband for now. Your eventual fate will be determined later. In short refrain from kissing any more women!